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Anger

If a human being never shows anger

Generally speaking, if a human being never shows anger, then I think something is wrong. He is not right in the brain

Dalai Lama

 

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Rewiring our brains away from anger

Neurologists claim that every time you resist acting on your anger, you’re actually rewiring your brain to be calm and more loving.

Tiny Buddha


How to deal with toxic persons

Source: Wisdom Path: A Zen master reveals the giveaway signs of a toxic person and the most powerful way to deal with them

“The deeper your present moment peace gets, the easier it will be to react non-passionately when confronted with hostility. As this gets better, you can begin to realize more deeply just how much someone has to be suffering internally in order to have such harsh reactions. With enough insight, you can develop your empathy and compassion based off this knowledge and these also help you remain even more peaceful in the present moment.

Continue the conversation.  Eventually, with enough compassion and insight on your side, you can begin to extinguish the fires of hostility by extinguishing anger with patience and understanding.

It’s hard to continue treating someone harshly when they continue treating you well. In helping them relieve these feelings, you not only help them but you also help yourself, since you no longer have to deal with them as they were.”

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A Zen master reveals the giveaway signs of a toxic person and the most powerful way to deal with them

Source: Wisdom Path: A Zen master reveals the giveaway signs of a toxic person and the most powerful way to deal with them

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We’ve all come across toxic people before. You know, the type of person that can be manipulative, judgmental and inconsiderate of anyone’s feelings.

It can hard to deal with these people, especially if you’re forced to every single day. That’s why I thought the advice below from a Zen master on Reddit was quite remarkable. 

But first, let’s define what a toxic person is so you know who you’re dealing with and then we’ll get to the Zen Master’s advice.

9 Traits of a Toxic Person

1) They talk more than they listen

Toxic people tend to have narcissistic tendencies and find it difficult to focus on anything but themselves. This goes against Buddhism where compassion and kindness for others (and yourself) is paramount.

2) They are never wrong

Everything they say is right and everything you say is wrong. They are unwilling to learn and will react harshly if you go against them.

3) Drama follows them

There’s always something wrong. If you offer advice, they’ll simply say it won’t work.

 4) They force relationships

It’s more about having relationships for the sake of other people seeing that they have relationships, rather than actually enjoying the connection for what it is.

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Wisdom Path: A Zen master reveals the giveaway signs of a toxic person and the most powerful way to deal with them


Anger and jealousy

Anger and jealousy are related to our sense of self-centredness and our disregard for others. Self-centredness easily gives rise to fear, which fosters irritation, which, when it blazes into anger, can provoke violence. The time has come to accept that if we’re talking about peace in the world, we have to consider peace within ourselves.

Dalai Lama


Dalai Lama: There is no such thing as a Muslim terrorist

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“Buddhist terrorist. Muslim terrorist. That wording is wrong,” he said. “Any person who wants to indulge in violence is no longer a genuine Buddhist or genuine Muslim, because it is a Muslim teaching that once you are involved in bloodshed, actually you are no longer a genuine practitioner of Islam.”

“All major religious traditions carry the same message: a message of love, compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment, self-discipline – all religious traditions”.

Source: Dalai Lama: There is no such thing as a Muslim terrorist | The Independent


Reconsider!

Source: Reconsider! | Great Middle Way

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Aug 11, 2017

13872803_819791568120320_3096403631283864264_nAll tremble at violence; all fear death. Putting ourselves in the place of another, we should not kill nor cause another to kill.

All tremble at violence; life is dear to all. Putting ourselves in the place of another, we should not kill nor cause another to kill.

If, while seeking happiness ourselves, we oppress with violence other beings who also desire happiness, we will not attain happiness hereafter.

If, while seeking happiness ourselves, we do not oppress with violence other beings who also desire happiness, we will find happiness hereafter.

Speak not harshly to anyone, for those thus spoken to might respond in kind. Indeed, angry speech hurts, and retaliation may overtake us.

—Buddha Shakyamuni, Udanavarga