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Aggression

Understanding Anger

By Kyabje Lama Zopa Rinpoche
Boulder Creek, California, 1997 (Archive #1091)

During a teaching at Vajrapani Institute in Boulder Creek California on May 23, 1997, Lama Zopa Rinpoche explained various ways to deal with anger—one’s own anger and the anger of others directed at oneself. This teaching appears in the July-August 1997 issue of Mandala, the newsmagazine of the FPMT.

Lama Zopa Rinpoche at Chenrezig Institute, Eudlo, Australia, 1994.
Lama Zopa Rinpoche at Chenrezig Institute, Eudlo, Australia, 1994.

Emptiness is a remedy for the foundation of all delusions—ignorance—so all the other delusions will disappear. The minute one meditates on emptiness, anger, for example, will stop. Anger arises when you believe in the false I, false object—all this which does not exist. So when one meditates on emptiness of the self and other objects, there is no foundation for anger. This is the most powerful antidote. But if it arises again, it is because there is no continuation of the meditation; the meditation, the mindfulness, has stopped. The problem is to remember the technique. Once you remember the technique, it always works. When you don’t remember the technique, it is delayed and the delusion, anger and so forth, has already arisen and taken you over.

One thing I tell people is always to think about karma. His Holiness always says Buddhists don’t believe in God. This basic Buddhist philosophy helps you remember there is no separate mind outside of yours that creates your life, creates your karma. Whatever happens in one’s own life comes from one’s own mind. These aggregates, all the views of the senses, all of the feelings, happiness, sadness and so forth—your whole world comes from your consciousness. The imprints of past good karma and negative karma left on the consciousness manifest, and become actualized. The imprints to have a human body, senses, views, aggregates, all the feelings—everything is realized at this time, and all of it comes from consciousness, from karma.

If your meditation on emptiness is not effective, this teaching of karma is very powerful for us ordinary beings. The minute one meditates on karma, there is no room in the mind for anger because there is nothing to blame. Thinking of karma is practicing the basic Buddhist philosophy that there is no creator other than your mind. It is not only a philosophy but a very powerful technique. Anger is based on believing in a creator: somebody created this problem; this happened because of this person. In daily life, when a problem arises, instead of practicing the philosophy of no creator, we act as if there is a creator, that the problem was created by somebody else. Even if we don’t use the word God, we still believe someone else created the problem. The minute you think of karma and realize there is no creator, there is no basis for the anger.

We need to think: In the past, I gave such harm to sentient beings, therefore I deserve to receive this harm from another sentient being. When you get angry what you are actually saying is that you can harm others, but you feel that you should not receive harm from others. This is very illogical. So in this practice, you say, ‘I deserve this harm.’

Another practice is to use this situation to develop compassion: I received this harm because of my karma. Who started all this? It’s not because of the other person, it’s because of your own actions. You treated other sentient beings this way in the past, that is why you receive harm now; your karma persuaded the person to harm you now. Now this person has a human birth and they harm you because of something you inspired in the past. By harming you now they are creating more negative karma to lose their human rebirth and to be reborn in lower realms. Didn’t I make that person get lost in the lower realms?

In this way, you are using that problem to generate bodhicitta. This means one is able to develop the whole Mahayana path to enlightenment, including the six paramitas, whether the sutra path or tantra path. One can cease all mistakes of the mind and achieve full enlightenment. Due to the kindness of that person, you are able to generate compassion, free sentient beings from all their sufferings, and bring enlightenment, to cause perfect happiness for all sentient beings.

One can also think in this way: by practicing compassion on that person, one is able to generate compassion towards all sentient beings. This person, who is so kind, so precious, is helping you stop harming all sentient beings, and on top of that, to receive help from you. By not receiving harm from you, peace and happiness come; also, by receiving help from you, numberless sentient get peace and happiness. All this peace and happiness that you are able to offer all sentient beings comes from this person.

Similarly, one can practice patience in this way and is able to cease anger. In the Kadampas’ advice, there are six techniques for practicing patience; I don’t need to go over all that now. They are good to memorize, to write down in a notebook, in order to use.

Another thing that is very good is what Pabongka Rinpoche explains in Liberation in the Palm of Your Hand: generally speaking one doesn’t get angry at the stick that the person used to beat you. The stick itself is used by the person, so therefore there is no point in getting angry at the stick. Similarly, the person’s body, speech and mind are completely used by the anger, by the delusion. The person’s body, speech and mind become like a slave, completely used as a tool of the anger. The person has no freedom at all—no freedom at all. So therefore, since the person has no freedom at all, they should become an object of our compassion. Not only that, one must take responsibility to pacify that person’s anger. By whatever means you can find, help the person’s mind, pacify the anger; even if there is nothing you can do, pray to Buddha, Dharma and Sangha to pacify the person’s mind.

What His Holiness teaches is to meditate on how that person is kind, how that person is precious like Dharma, precious like Buddha, precious like Guru; kind like Buddha, like Guru. The conclusion is that if no one has anger towards us, we can never develop patience. If everybody loves us then we can never generate the precious quality of patience, the path of patience. So therefore there is an incredible need in our lives for someone to have anger towards us. It is so precious, so important that someone has anger towards us. It’s not precious for that person, but for us, it’s very precious. For that person it’s torturous, it’s like living in the lower realms. But for us, that person having anger towards us is so precious. We have a great need for this, a great need.

It’s important that someone loves you, but it is even more important that someone has anger towards you. You see, if someone loves you it does not help you benefit numberless sentient beings or actualize the entire path to enlightenment. So why is this person the most precious thing to me? Because they are angry with you. To you, this person’s anger is like a wish-granting jewel.

Also, your anger destroys merit, and destroys your happiness, not only in day-to-day life but in long-term happiness. As the Bodhicaryavatara mentions, one moment of anger delays realizations for one thousand eons. Anger is a great obstacle, especially for bodhicitta realizations. Therefore, because this person is angry with me, I am able to develop patience and overcome my own anger and complete the entire path to enlightenment. One can complete the two types of merit, cease all the obscurations, achieve enlightenment, and free all sentient beings and lead them to enlightenment.


Dissolving Aggression

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Someone once asked me, “What would it feel like to have burned up all those seeds, to be a person who no longer has any aggression?” The person who asked this was thinking that such a person might be pretty boring. No juice, no passion.
I answered that I really wouldn’t know from personal experience, but I imagine that such a person would be great company.
If you dissolved your aggression, it would mean that other people wouldn’t have to walk on eggshells around you, worried that something they might say would offend you. You’d be an accessible, genuine person. The awakened people that I’ve known are all very playful, curious, and unthreatened by things. They go into situations with their eyes and their hearts wide open. They have a real appetite for life instead of an appetite for aggression. They are, it seems, not afraid to be insecure.
– Pema Chödron
from the book “Practicing Peace in Times of War”
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If you are filled with anger


Overcoming aggression

 

 

 
Aggression is an obstacle to visual dharma, to hearing and the other sense perceptions, and to understanding reality in its fullest sense. To overcome aggression, some kind of fundamental discipline seems to be absolutely important and necessary. Without any actual practice of sitting meditation to enable us to make friends with ourselves, nothing can be heard or seen to its fullest extent; nothing can be perceived as we would like to perceive it. But slowly and naturally, through our discipline, we gradually begin to branch out into the real world.
– Chögyam Trungpa
 
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The enemy within

We tend to think that the threats to our society or to ourselves are outside of us. We fear that some enemy will destroy us. But a society is destroyed from the inside, not from an attack by outsiders. We imagine an enemy coming with spears and machine guns to kill us, massacre us. In reality, the only thing that can destroy us is within ourselves. If we have too much arrogance, we will destroy the possibility of being awake, and then we cannot use our intuitive openness to extend ourselves in situations properly. Instead, we generate tremendous aggression.
– Chögyam Trungpa
from the book “The Collected Works of Chogyam Trungpa, Volume 8”
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The courage not to succumb

When we examine anger and aversion with awareness, there is a radical shift of identity. These states are not who we really are. They are conditioned and impersonal, and they do not belong to us. It is scary to us and to those with whom we are locked in conflict when we release our blame. Sometimes our partners are confused when we step out of the dance of anger. They too will be required to change. In letting go of contention we return to our true strength and nobility. In our hardships, we discover the courage not to succumb, not to retreat, not to strike out in fear and anger. And by resting in a non-contentious heart we become a lamp, a medicine, a strong presence; we become the healing the world so dearly needs.

– Jack Kornfield

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Jack Kornfield on the web:
http://jackkornfield.com

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Reacting with anger

When someone insults us, we usually dwell on it, asking ourselves, ‘Why did he say that to me?’ and on and on. It’s as if someone shoots an arrow at us, but it falls short. Focusing on the problem is like picking up the arrow and repeatedly stabbing ourselves with it, saying, ‘He hurt me so much. I can’t believe he did that.’ Instead, we can use the method of contemplation to think things through differently, to change our habit of reacting with anger. Imagine that someone insults you. Say to yourself, ‘This person makes me angry. But what is this anger?’ It is one of the poisons of the mind that creates negative karma, leading to intense suffering. Meeting anger with anger is like following a lunatic who jumps off a cliff. Do I have to go likewise? While it’s crazy for him to act the way he does, it’s even crazier for me to do the same.

– Chagdud Tulku Rinpoche

quoted in the book “Portraits of Tibetan Buddhist Masters”

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The three fires of destruction

A Meditative Life – The Saddhamma of Gotama the Buddha


Meeting someone you don’t like

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New Growth Awareness and Spirituality Group


Loosing our appetite for Aggression

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 We can contact our inner strength, our natural openness, for short periods before getting swept away. And this is excellent, heroic, a huge step in interrupting and weakening our ancient habits. If we keep a sense of humor and stay with it for the long haul, the ability to be present just naturally evolves. Gradually we lose our appetite for biting the hook. We lose our appetite for aggression.

– Pema Chödron

from the book “Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears”
ISBN: 978-1590309810 – http://amzn.to/15NgGvB


Root out the aggression in your life

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“Root out the aggression in your life, and learn to live compassionately and mindfully. Seek peace. When you have peace within, real peace with others is possible.”
~Thich Nhat Hanh~

Anger and jealousy

Anger and jealousy are related to our sense of self-centredness and our disregard for others. Self-centredness easily gives rise to fear, which fosters irritation, which, when it blazes into anger, can provoke violence. The time has come to accept that if we’re talking about peace in the world, we have to consider peace within ourselves.

Dalai Lama


Learn to live compassionately and mindfully

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 Root down the violence in your life, and learn to live compassionately and mindfully. Seek peace. When you have peace within, real peace with others is possible.

– Thich Nhat Hanh


Dalai Lama: There is no such thing as a Muslim terrorist

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“Buddhist terrorist. Muslim terrorist. That wording is wrong,” he said. “Any person who wants to indulge in violence is no longer a genuine Buddhist or genuine Muslim, because it is a Muslim teaching that once you are involved in bloodshed, actually you are no longer a genuine practitioner of Islam.”

“All major religious traditions carry the same message: a message of love, compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment, self-discipline – all religious traditions”.

Source: Dalai Lama: There is no such thing as a Muslim terrorist | The Independent


Reconsider!

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13872803_819791568120320_3096403631283864264_nAll tremble at violence; all fear death. Putting ourselves in the place of another, we should not kill nor cause another to kill.

All tremble at violence; life is dear to all. Putting ourselves in the place of another, we should not kill nor cause another to kill.

If, while seeking happiness ourselves, we oppress with violence other beings who also desire happiness, we will not attain happiness hereafter.

If, while seeking happiness ourselves, we do not oppress with violence other beings who also desire happiness, we will find happiness hereafter.

Speak not harshly to anyone, for those thus spoken to might respond in kind. Indeed, angry speech hurts, and retaliation may overtake us.

—Buddha Shakyamuni, Udanavarga