Whatever occurs is part of the learning process
This aspect of taking refuge is particularly applicable in America, where it is quite fashionable to blame everything on others and to feel that all kinds of elements in one’s relationships or surroundings are unhealthy or polluted.
We react with resentment.
But once we begin to do that, there is no way. The world becomes divided into two sections: sacred and profane, or that which is good and proper and that which is regarded as a bad job or a necessary evil. Taking refuge in the Dharma, taking passionless approach, means that all life is regarded as a fertile situation and a learning situation, always.
Whatever occurs—is part of the learning process. So there is nothing to blame; everything is the path, everything is Dharma.
Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche
~ The Heart of the Buddha