The journey of a 1000 miles begins with a single step

How a Zen Master recommends you respond to toxic people

In reaction to a post on Reddit, here is a wise piece of advice on how to deal with these kinds of people (toxic):
“The deeper your present moment peace gets, the easier it’ll be to react non- passionately when confronted with hostility. As this gets better, you can begin to realize more deeply just how much someone has to be suffering internally in order to have such harsh reactions. With enough insight, you can develop your empathy and compassion based off this knowledge and these also help you remain even more peaceful in the present moment.

Continue the conversation. Eventually, with enough compassion and insight on your side, you can begin to extinguish the fires of hostility by extinguishing anger with patience and understanding… It’s hard to continue treating someone harshly when they continue treating you well. In helping them relieve these feelings, you not only help them but you also help yourself, since you no longer have to deal with them as they were.”

source: thepowerofideas,

via: hackspirit

One response

  1. There’s a lot of truth in this. We can choose our response to other’s anger, fear, or toxicity. I’ve noticed that at first, others can be even angrier or confused when I choose to respondent instaed of simply reacting and returning with my own anger. As I continue to seek ways to connect my heart with theirs, I’ve noticed them calming and responding themselves. Okay, it doesn’t always happen that way and it can take patience and time. However, it works! And, it’s worth it. Because I can can then learn a little about myself and those parts within me that also have similar needs.
    These interactions which I had called toxic can become lessons, dharma which helps me in deep ways.
    Thanks for your inspiring reminder.
    Vincent

    January 13, 2018 at 7:26 am

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